Have you ever occasionally hated the person you share your life with? For all of us the recent lockdown has blast tested our relationships, and many of us have discovered that what keeps us together is actually space apart. It’s a bewildering conundrum. Is it right? Is it healthy or a sign of imminent divorce? Basically, is it normal to want to kill your husband? Firstly I must say that the title of this article is taken from a real question, by a real person, from a recent and also very real online relationship counselling session.
When I got my first job as a counsellor it was almost thirty years ago. The phrase “online counselling” hadn’t even been invented. We didn’t even know what “online” meant. The idea that in the year 2020 counselling would be conducted through a computer with people who were hundreds if not thousands of miles away […]
It’s a myth that important life changes take a long time to make. Usually, the more time spent working on something the better the outcome, but this common sense has no place in the strange and weird world of change and motivation where everything works in unusual and unfamiliar ways. Sometimes the biggest changes we […]
Sometimes it doesn’t take much for us to feel a little stronger; some words of wisdom from a close friend, an understanding smile or a few comforting thoughts. Here are some really useful ideas that I have recently passed on during online counselling. I hope they make a difference to you. All Feelings Change No […]
I was recently asked to do some couples counselling in London and was surprised to hear that the first Monday back after the Christmas and New Year break is commonly known between divorce lawyers and counsellors involved with couples therapy, as Divorce Monday on account of the extremely high rate of divorce requests logged after […]