Here are six quick tips from online-relationship-counselling that will improve your relationship.
The latest UK government figures show that right now 47% of the working population do at least part of their work from home. That’s about 15 million people! It’s not surprising that many couples are getting on each other’s nerves. Online-relationship-counselling has never been so much in need during these difficult and unprecedented times.
I don’t think it matters how strong your relationship is, or how well you both get along, being in the same house for 24 hours a day, 7 days a week takes its toll. Like a well planted garden, relationships need a little space, a little room to breathe, otherwise things quickly get suffocated and stifled and nothing grows very well.
Here’s six little ideas from online-relationship-counselling to breathe some fresh air, balance and happiness back into our lives.
Online-Relationship-Counselling Tip Number 1: Some Laughter
In Wales they say that people who sing together stay together, but that’s the Welsh for you. I would go one step further and suggest that people who laugh together, stay together. It makes good common sense doesn’t it. Make an effort to watch a funny movie with your other half at least once a week; Blades of Glory, with Will Ferrel is a good start. Laugh as much as you can, you can never overdo it. The more you both laugh, the the better.
2: The Power of Kindness
If you apply to Harvard University, the last question on the application form asks; “Describe a time which you demonstrated an act of kindness.” Increasingly, it’s becoming realized that being kind is actually quite important, it demonstrates awareness, empathy and sensitivity, all of which are obviously seen as desirable qualities by one of the world’s elite centres of learning. If it’s good enough for Harvard it’s good enough for us, so make sure that you do something kind for your partner every day. It doesn’t have to be a grand gesture or an ostentatious demonstration. It could be a simple thing like putting the washing away, buying their favourite food or drink, or offering to do something for them which you know they don’t like doing. Spend a little time now and think about how you can demonstrate kindness towards your partner. At the very least you’ll have something to write about if you ever decide to apply to Harvard.
3: Forever Apart
A while ago, I worked with a couple as part of our online-relationship-counselling programme who did absolutely nothing together. They shared no common interests and even watched different programmes on the TV in different rooms. Even if you have very little in common with your partner (which is all fine and dandy by the way), do make sure that you do something with each other from time to time. Again this doesn’t have to be big or complicated and could be as simple as both cooking an evening meal, cutting the grass, shopping or doing a crossword. Remember that a healthy partnership should involve actually doing something in partnership.
4: Space To Breathe
This is the opposite of the above which will provide much needed balance when you are both thrown together 24/ 7. Create some space in your life where you can be apart and do your own thing. Before the world turned upside down and everything went online, when we all left home every morning to go to a different place to work, space was provided automatically. We took it for granted. Unless we consciously create this space in our new stay at home online lives, things will quickly become claustrophobic. Again this doesn’t have to be a massive commitment or hugely time consuming, it could simply be going for a walk, or a trip to the park or to get some shopping. Whatever it is, ensure that you have some space apart.
5: Secret Relationship Santa
Do something nice for your partner every week without telling them. This is different from demonstrating an act of kindness, as this is deliberately kept secret by you. They may never discover what you have done, but if they do, it has a massive impact. Either way you will feel better about yourself, your partner and your relationship. Such simple little things make all the difference to any relationship; hanging their clothes up in the wardrobe, renewing a subscription, putting the rubbish out, cleaning the bathroom or popping their coat to the dry cleaners. Whatever it is, make sure you never tell them and do your best to keep it a secret.
6: The Power of Breakfast
Isn’t it wonderful when someone makes you breakfast. It really is. So without any announcement why not make your partner breakfast one morning. It’s the kind of thing we all do for birthdays, high days and holidays, but once in a while the power of having a really nice breakfast which is made especially for you goes a very long way in any relationship, whoever you are. Give it a try this weekend.
These are just a handful of ideas from online-relationship-counselling. Do contact us for online-counselling, online-life-coaching, online-relationship-counselling and online-couples-therapy.
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